Here is something I wrote right after 9/11 one of the saddest day in history

Here it is couple of days later.

We still feel the hurtful pain that leaves a huge hole in everyone heart.

Every voice you hear is asking why?

Why was this evil put upon us?

Why so many people had to die?

Why would a person bring himself to perform an act like this?

Why do we have to feel this pain?

Every face you see wonders how?

How could we as human beings go about our normal life?

How do you explain the sorrowfulness you feel inside?

How could this person feel so shameless?

Who was behind this evil?

Who would want to destroy this place we call home?

Who would want us to feel this was our fault?

Who would want us to feel there is no hope?

Finally the question left in everyone’s mind is What?

What can we do?

What can we do as a country to make this a better place again?

As you can see these are the questions that are being asked.

No one can fully answer these questions yet.

We the people of the United States of America

Know this day will go down in history as the most painful day in America.

The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away

Therefore, the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment., Nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous”. Amen

( The book of psalms chapter 1, verse 4 and 5).

God Bless America

Unfortunately, here it is 18 years later there has been numerous incidence with loss of life at the hands of evil people. May God have mercy for this planet.

By: Painbug©2019

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Have you ever felt this way before?

One day you are on top of the world

The next day you’re beneath the earth

One day you have everything going for you

The next day everything was taking from you

One day you have the biggest smile on your face

The next day that biggest smile is a frown

One day you’re the richest person

The next day you’re the most pitiful person alive

One day your family member is there for you

The next day their not around

One day you’re happily married

The next day you are sadly divorce

One day you have the highest hopes

The next day you have lost all hope

What I have learned is you can only take one day at a time

You can only deal with what life hands you one day at a time

All we can do is Make the Best of it one day at a time

Painbug©2019

Why Life?🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Why is it life always find a way to throw you for a loop? It seems when you finally have figure out things here comes another problem. Problem after problem hill after hill to constantly climb to reach the top. The emotion and physical roller coaster is draining the very life from you. Will the sorrow and the pain ever end? Can I live a happy ever after life like the characters on TV or is it just the way my life is setup?

Life is full of lessons to be learn. We can only take it one day at a time. Today maybe good day and tomorrow could be horrible, the one thing for certain is everyday is a new day with endless possibilities. All we can do is except the things we can change and let go of the things we can not change.

I am a walking emotion wreck but its my life. I can control my feelings, and some times I can control my emotions. I can’t control the pain ,but I can fight like hell so it won’t take over my life.

My life is a Work In Progress with tape and all

© By Painbug ©2019

Seeking advice asap!!!!

Here is my disclaimer normally I do not share my personal stuff on social media times, but is hard and need to make sure I am not going crazy.

I need some advice quickly about my situation. So as we know I have been suffering from chronic pain and mental health issues. I have a son who is really really pushing his luck. He is 17 years old very disrespectful and self-center. I think he is a sociopath, but that is my opinion. I am not a professional who can diagnose but he has the signs. He constantly taunts us, tried to fight his dad twice, comes home when he gets ready, he feels we should allow him to bring company home when he feels like, and oh here is the kicker he feels we should be his personal taxi cab. all of this behavior started escalating over the last two years. He hasn’t had any trauma issues happen to him. He has been dealing with a girl who is one year older than her.

She is problematic as well. In and out of juvenile. She has a rap sheet full of assaults on her mother. Yes, I said she it beats her mom up. Very disrespectful, self-center and manipulative seen it first hand. I saw her talk to her mother like trash. She has tried her luck me with a nasty text message late one night. I had to let her know quickly I am not the one and she is over 18 years old. I think we nip that in the bud no issues from her anymore.

Now that I gave you a little background. Here are the things we tried already.

  1. I had sought therapy for him. He told the therapist it was a waste of his and her time.
  2. We ended up with a DCF case (Department of children and families) they came out dropped the case. He was placed in a youth emergency shelter for trying to fight his father.
  3. We were referred to Boystown that offers non- residential services to no avail.
  4. Sent him to a boys youth ranch he stay there for a while, but started trouble there and being disrespectful and defiance to the adults on grounds.
  5. Police at the house a couple of times a week to de-escalate situations.
  6. Restrictions in the house phone, tv, etc.. Was told we were possessive

All these things have not worked for us at all. The laws are set up to protect children which are good for children, how about the parent’s rights. We are being emotional abuse, I guess physically abuse when he tries to fight his dad and verbally abuse. If the shoe was on the other foot we would be under the jail. Please don’t think for one second we are scared or intimidated by this child. He is the fifth out of six children. The youngest boy of four sons. We had the normal teenager trouble with the others nothing this dramatic. None of the other kids dare to step out of line the way this child does. The sad thing is we saw him and this girl disrespect a grow ass man in our house. It’s too much I think God was in the room to stop all of us from snatching both their ass. We knew then he had issues that were just going to manifest to something worst.

As parents, we tend to question where did we go wrong? How can this child turn out like this we raised him, right? When did his mind snap? What causes this to behavior? Finally Why?

It has been hard for me and my husband trying to hold our composure during these times. As I write this my child decided he wasn’t coming home for two night. So now we have to deal with another concerned adult who is taking care of his girlfriend. They were wondering if my son was going to show up at their house. The question is she going to try to sneak him in and if so when caught will they cause a problem since they believe they are the 2019 version of Blonde and Clyde. Just went to his school for a meeting he requested we have with the guidance counselor. To our surprise
(not really), he wasn’t at school.

I need some much-needed advice, please.

HELP HELP The struggle is real!!!

A state of mind!!🤳🤳🤳

The way your body feels

Weak, emotionless, painful

Drained of any life

Anything can come and sweep you away

And that’s how you feel

Then out of nowhere, there’s a light

A burst of energy

Then happiness creeps in

Then joy appear in the air

Your confidence level excels

The feeling your on top of the world

Now you know you have the power

The darkness you just felt is just a moment

In time

it came and left

Now you realize you can breathe again

Enjoy the happiness you have just been filled with

✨✨✨✨✨✨©By Pain bug©✨✨✨✨✨✨

Looking for my Courage/Valor 👀👀👀👀👀

Where do you look for courage? When someone is facing depression, anxiety, and pain looking for courage is the farthest thing from their mind. When in the middle of an episode, it is really hard to think positive or even straight at times. It really doesn’t matter what anyone says at that time, because the only things you are thinking about while they are speaking is you don’t know what I am going through, or how it feels. What can I do to make it stop? Or finally, your thinking how can I make it stop, make it all stop.  Why me? 

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” Just tell yourself the pain is the healing process, you are strong and brave, I am proud of you, your strength is amazing, and If I can take the pain from you i would”

Your mind tends to go downhill from the moment pain begins to speak. Which way do you turn for help? Sometimes you believe a phone conversation or even texting someone can help take your mind off the pain.  Sad to say the texting or talking on the phone doesn’t help me. It reminds me how helpless I am when someone apologizes or say I wish there was something I could do for you. Please save your voice and my ears from empathy. I only hear with one ear and it’s rejecting whatever it hears through the same ear. I can’t even hear my owns thoughts clearly through the pain in my body.

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Here is the famous question on a scale of 1-10 how are you feeling today? I want to ask who and how a scale from 1-10 really can measure my pain level?

How and where do I find this courage everyone keeps talking about? Can I just call its name will it respond to me? Courage can you find me now I need you more than ever?

What is Courage? Courage is the strength in the face of pain or grief, or the ability to do something that frightens one.

When I wake up in the morning courage is not waking up beside me. Depending on my body its other feelings I am waking up with. I tend to have conversations with myself throughout the day to gain my courage. It always starts with why are you feeling sorry for yourself? Follow by a series of questions that normally get me mad enough to prove myself wrong. Its like courage sets a fire under my butt to motivate me. Courage has me facing my day with great energy I begin to feel like the lion king of the jungle. I know it a continuing battle every day to find the courage to face life battle, but I am in it for the long run😁😉😎.

Conversations with Me, Myself, and I

Monday Inspiration

I read an inspiration blog from Claire Saul(PainPalBlog) she provides some really good readings this one particularly reading caught my attention and had me thinking.

http://theunchargeables.com/pain-awareness-month-why-does-it-matter

It feels good to know there are other people who may be facing the same feelings as  I do. I would love to share my experiences and feeling too with other people. Sometimes it can be really hard when you are stuck in bed and a prisoner of your own mind. You tend to wonder are there other people who are facing the same mental and physical feelings? Are you the only one who seems to think this situation is a punishment for some strange reason? There are multiple questions I would ask myself on a daily basis while I am trying to get my head together.

We all need an outlet in troubled times.  Someone suggested I start a blog to share my experiences with other people. I am the type of person who would keep everything to myself so I wouldn’t burden other people with my drama. When people see me they comment on how strong I must be to endure so much. I want to yell out so bad the person you are talking to is not strong. In reality, I am a weak person who has conversations with herself every day just to get motived.  I am always fighting just to function normally. There are days when my body wins the fight and all I see is the bed.

It is tough to fight with pain, hiding feelings, and loneliness. No one really knows how it feels unless they are experiencing the same thing. I do have a small close support system, but I want to bring them into your madness so I fake it to make it. Now I know there are other people who face the same thing as I and are struggling to fight as well.

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Living life with pain is very difficult to do.

We all are strong inside.